more than anything, whoever you are, wherever you are — live your life.

7 things to remember when you’re single

i think i avoid writing about relationships because i’m single — and if there’s anything i don’t want to be — it’s that single person, writing about relationships, and singleness.

but alas, here i am. writing…

chances are, if you are married — this article won’t be directed towards you, but hey, pass it on to one of your friends. there might be something good down below, but no promises.

i am twenty-eight.

single.

a female.

an owner of two businesses.

a fiercely independent human.

a traveler.

at twenty-eight, no one expects you to be single still. more times than i would like, i get asked the question, “do you want to get married?” or “do you want to be in a relationship?”

i always wonder why people ask this somewhat rhetorical question. each of us were built the same, after all — with the need for companionship.

every time, i answer the same: “yes, don’t we all want to be with someone?”

often times, the overwhelming amount of questions that come with a slight shock that i’m single, also come with an undertone that i am doing too much — that i ought to slow down or lessen myself, my dreams, my goals, and my visions in order to be a more suitable “catch”.

i haven’t quite decided if people know what they are doing when they ask so many questions in the manner they do, but part of me often feels like they are guilting me for being an independent woman, who travels, who is an entrepreneur, and who enjoys creating adventures. recently, i have noticed individuals, both married and single, act as if starting businesses and traveling are both on reserve for when you have a man.

here’s my thing — nothing is on reserve.

traveling, starting businesses, chasing adventure, designing your life — all of these things can be experienced at any stage of life, regardless of your relationship status.

relationships are such a beautiful thing that were designed with intention and purpose, but i fear too many of us are treating them as the starting line for life. relationships do not define us as humans or what we are capable of.

i don’t know where you are in life, what your history is, the friendships you have around you, what your goals are, but along your journey, i hope you remember this:

  1. marriage is not the starting line. your life does not start the moment you say “i do.” your life starts when your lungs inhale your first breath. that’s the starting line. anything you do after that is a mile marker in the journey of life. we are each unique and headed to different destinations — therefore, we cannot measure our life’s pace to someone else’s. when you realize that you have already past the starting line on your first day of life — you’ll give yourself the freedom to live the life of your dreams — not waiting for a specific life event to happen in order to give you the “okay” to live a life you love. right now, whatever life stage you are in, whatever your relationship status is — live the life you’ve been dreaming of. you don’t need a marriage certificate to have a wildly adventurous life.

my little memos could go on — but i’ll bring this to an end.

more than anything, whoever you are, wherever you are — live your life.

don’t buy into the limiting idea that a grand and adventurous life can only be experienced when you’ve found your significant other. this life is what you make it — so make it wild, make it exciting, make it one for the books. you don’t have to wait to start crossing items off your life to-do list — you can do them now. dear friend, don’t allow the world’s plethora of questions to cause you to question your strength, independence, or dreams.

you were created with intention, you are fierce for a purpose.

don’t hold back for a second, thinking that it will get you to the most important things in life. be unapologetically you.

your story is in the making — it’s going to be better than the fairytales. each day, each moment, each adventure, each interaction is part of the weave that’s creating the tapestry of your life. so, experience. experience it all. nothing is on reserve.

keep the magic inside of you alive — download the PEPTALKS™ by Lindsey Eryn app in the Apple App Store or Google Play. follow @lindseyeryn, @thedaringromantics, and @peptothetalk for more daily inspo.

writer, designer, speaker✨owner of third story apt studio 💌 creator of @peptothetalk app 🌹podcast — the daring romantics | TW/IG: @lindseyeryn lindseyeryn.com

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